I just want to say this, though. I was not a bad person when I was fatter. I am not a better person now I am not so fat.
Being fat does not equate with being a criminal, being lazy, having no willpower or any other negative connotation.
|Yep this is me.|
|This is also me. still exactly the same me.|
Being less fat does not mean you are stronger of will, more moral, or more deserving of love and respect.
I am the same person I was at either extreme and in the middle too.
I long ago stepped off the billion dollar weight-shaming industry's carousel of suffering and decided to be happy and as well as I can be at whatever weight I am.
My current weight reflects many things, some good and some not good. Weight gain would not be a bad thing if it happened because my gut had begun working better and I could one more eat and enjoy the foods other people take for granted. More weight loss would be a good thing if it was because I felt so well that I could do more physical work and exercise.
Is it easier being lighter? Hell yes. People treat you better. Clothes are easier to find. It's easier to walk up a hill. If I had a job to apply for, I'd be more likely to get it. That, my friends, is called weight privilege, and it's a thing, just like money privilege or colour privilege or gender privilege.
The best thing is not to comment on the size and shape of people's bodies at all. Any of them, and if they run themselves down, say only positive things back. Let's try not to judge people based on their size. Let's all try to stay off the fat shaming treadmill, and that means to ourselves as well.
Much love to you all.